Personal development to save the world: No time to waste
Wednesday, October 01, 2008

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Some of you may know that for the last 3 weeks, I have been laid up with a broken ankle. I have a cast from my toes almost to my knee, and I’m not to put any weight on my foot at all, so getting around is a matter of using crutches or rolling around in my office chair. Even hobbling to the corner is a major exertion and causes stress on my ankle, so my mobility is limited to my house and my back yard, for the most part.
In trying to make productive use of this extended period of time at home, I’ve noticed something—I dick around on the internet a lot. It’s a habit now: I go to my computer, check my message boards and RSS feeds, and next thing I know hours have passed without my actually having accomplished anything.
Up until now, I’ve had enough other distractions—running around, doing errands, spending time with friends—that I didn’t really notice how much I allowed myself to indulge in this behavior. But now, spending so much time at home with as much peace and quiet as I could ever want, it stands out. How is it possible that I can look back on a day spent entirely at home by myself and have nothing to show for it?
Of course, I don’t mean to say I don’t get anything done. Just getting to the front door to let in the grocery delivery guy takes a lot of effort on crutches! And I do write and read and pursue my goals. From the outside, it looks to many people like I do accomplish a ton. But from the inside, I know I could be creating and connecting a lot more.
This is a pattern I’ve been in for years, so familiar to me that it feels like it’s not even a choice. But I’m starting to realize that, like everything else I do, it is a choice. I choose to let the habit of messing around on the internet take up my day. And now, seeing it so clearly, I’m ready to transform it.
So, for the last few weeks of my convalescence, I am taking on the task of overcoming inertia. Falling prey to it means I lose time, and I don’t have time to lose. None of us does. Solving the problems of our culture and creating a new way to live is going to take everything we’ve got—every moment, every idea, and every skill we can throw at it.
The most insidious thing about inertia is that I don’t even notice I am sliding into it! And I’m sure this is a fairly common experience. Most of us go through our days as though we’re on rails, repeating exactly what we did yesterday, whether it’s the right thing to do today or not. This is why, in Island, Pala is full of birds that walk around saying “Attention! Attention!” and “Here and now, boys!” Noticing what we are doing every moment is the first step toward living with intention.
So my task this week is going to be noticing when I am falling into inertia, and snapping out of it. There are a few tools I’m going to use to help me with this:
- A daily schedule that has built-in times for work, writing, reading, exercise, and everything else I want to do in a day, and a firm commitment to stick with this schedule.
- Practicing mindfulness as though there are mynah birds walking around my head saying “Here and now, boys! Here and now!”
- Most importantly, I have a question I will ask myself every time I think of it. “What does the life I want to live look like right now? Does it look like what I am doing?” This technique is proving to be my greatest ally in getting past inertia, as it gets me to adopt the biggest possible context. When I look back at my life from my deathbed, do I want to have lots of fuzzy memories of wasting time? Probably not.
Some other resources I may or may not use based on how far I can go with the above:
- Get Back to Work, a site that lets you put in your next goal, and the time by which you want to complete it. You can click whether you accomplished this goal, and track your progress throughout the day.
- A rubber band around my wrist. When I notice myself dicking around instead of moving towards my goals, I will snap it. By doing so, I hope to snap myself back to reality.
Steve Pavlina’s new book, Personal Development for Smart People (full review coming soon) includes a chapter on developing personal power, including self-discipline. He likens it to weightlifting—you start out with light weights and progress up to heavier ones as your strength grows. This week I will see for myself whether I am strong enough now to succeed at being aware of inertia and choosing something different.
Have you been successful with conquering inertia? Are you battling with it yourself? Do you have any suggestions for me? I have a feeling that this goal, like so many others, will go much more successfully with support from other people working on the same thing, so please share any thoughts you have in the comments.
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Very interesting article. Its comforting in a way to know that its not just me who thinks they waste precious time. A few years ago I suddenly had the chance to stop working and have that wonderful ‘me’ time. I was going to do such productive things that I had never had time for before. What did I do? I learnt how to work a computer and just as you said I found myself starting off well and pursuing a question or task on my laptop and all of a sudden the day had disappeared and was left feeling like I’d wasted a lot of it. I also was going to pursue painting which is a hobby I thoroughly enjoy but fooled myself into believing that it was the fact that I was working that stopped me from doing it. Wrong! I also now had the time to try my hand at writing. Another hobby that I was being encourage to do by friends and family but again made excuses that you can’t do that when you’re working. Wrong again. All in all I did waste quite a bit of time. My problem was first of all motivation and secondly allowing myself to be easily distracted. Once I snapped myself into action I tried to allot myself a more organised way of working things began to improve. I tried to stick to one particular day for a particular pursuit and slowly I felt I was achieving a lot more. I can’t honestly say that I’ve got it right yet as distractions are all around us but I’m getting there.
Right on Megan and Terry. I had a similar problem feeling I’m wasting time on the computer and here is what I did…
- before I sit down on the computer, I ask myself what do I want to accomplish. I write down a list of one or two tasks and then I work through the list. No diddle daddle until the tasks are done. If I have it written out or I have it clear in my head why I am getting on the computer, it is easy to see when I am drifting off and when it is done I feel like I have accomplished something and I did and I know exactly what it was that I did.
- I think it is important to have time to just drift around on the internet and find whatever because it is like day dreaming - it has a purpose of being unstructured free-association creative time, but I’ll make that my task when I sit down and I’ll tell myself I can poke around for 15 minutes. I find adding a time limit is helpful and the best one for me is “I’ll do this until I am tired and then I’ll go to bed” and that is why I am sometimes up until 2am?! but I feel good about myself and don’t feel I have wasted time.
- I notice you have a link to Tim Feriss and I recently read his book “4 Hour Work Week” and he has some good points about handling e-mail (and you can extend it to other computer related tasks like facebooking). He only answers emails once a week. He schedules a time to do email and has an auto-responder tell people that he only reads email on this day between this time and this time and if what you have to say can’t wait until then contact him another way (which he has all his phone calls go to voicemail which he only check like once a day but his message says if it is REALLY important to call another number). I have been sort of doing that and it certainly prevents you from always going and checking your inbox multiple times a day and feeling like you have to respond to every email right then. Everything can wait. There is too much living to do.
terry, i know exactly what you mean by thinking it’s work that keeps me from doing what i want, when in reality, i usually find that the busier i am, the more i get done. for instance, if i have to leave to go somewhere in 2 hours, it’s very easy to say, “hmm, what can i get done in those 2 hours?” and get to it. whereas if i have a whole empty day in front of me, it can easily slip by because i keep thinking “oh, i have plenty of time!”
it’s funny, i kind of see my ankle as a metaphor for this. i have a cast on now, which is providing external support for my ankle’s healing. once the bone is healed, though, i’ll have to do physical therapy to develop the inner support again. similarly, my job and all the busy running around i usually do provide an external structure for my life. but being at home so much is teaching me that it’s every bit as important to work on my internal structure.
john, i think the time limits you talk about are really useful. i had a conversation with a friend the other night where she said something like “i don’t even want to bother setting a time limit for myself, because i don’t have any confidence that i will stick to it.”
that’s kind of a sad statement, but i have to admit i knew exactly how she felt. in the past i’ve given up making promises to myself because i didn’t trust myself to follow through. but i have been working to develop my inner strength so that when i make a commitment to myself, i can trust myself to stick with it. just like lifting weights, i started with small commitments, and now i’m up to bigger ones.
i’m happy to say that so far this week i have been sticking to my promises to myself, utilizing my time extremely well, and getting done everything i want to get done. it feels so good!
you’re right—most everything that jumps into our faces and demands attention can wait. i like the idea of having a plan for processing these things so they don’t expand and take over more time than what’s necessary.
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